I agree, because I know it is very difficult. I'm trying to do the opposite of what I feel - and that's very hard for me.
Also, I struggle because I want her to solidify her thoughts - not simply have these feelings. It's not just me and her. We have 3 children and lots of responsibilities.
I honestly believe at this point there are 2 "real" issues in our M. Her feeling that she doesn't love me, and the interference of my parents in our M.
Like I said we had a good convo last night, intiated by her. I did my best to validate. Obviously I had to let her know that there isn't anyone else - I'm not dating - I'm not exploring my escape options!!
I'm am working on detaching, trying to "force" or convince myself that I can be happy without "this" woman. Some days I really believe it and other days I panic and my emotions takeover.
Taking the kids swimming tonight, hockey tomorrow night. GAL, and another IC appointment next week.
Thanks again for your helping.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
