You are the strongest person I know! Don't you wish they gave out awards to those of us that choose to try and save our M's?!
Quote: The truth is, that THIS incident was a reminder to me that it's NOT just my H and I that can mess up our attempt to reconcile but all those 'other' people that have their own agenda for our R as well.
I hear you sister! Because I know that if H and I was alone amoung people that did not know us, we'd be sliding into home base. There are too many people that have their fingers in the pie! My H relatives, my relatives, OW, our D's, att., friends, enemys! No wonder it is a hard road!
T2, my H isn't home yet, but, I think you are doing great! Thank God we have this BB and our chats! There are many times I don't see the trees for the forest! And you have, many times lifted me out of the pits of he//! I hope I've done the same for you!
Glad to hear, things are slowly mending! We just have to learn to let go of the anger and pain. (Remind me of this when I'm where you are, now)! LOL!
Thank YOU Deb for nudging me back to life this weekend.
I guess I should have added a PS to my post that told of my H's throwing the 'gift'/'note' etc out in the trash.
He hasn't said anything about the e-mail OR the incident...which of course is HIS NORM...so I guess I'll have to settle for what may have been my Hs silent acceptance of MY position on this, by his chucking the 'evil intent of the 'gift' into the garbage where both IT and SHE belong.
This may even have taught him a tough lesson or two:
1) that the allies in his conspiracy to betray ME may also be willing to betray HIM (in their hope to further hurt me).
2) That there are consequences to his betrayal that even HE never would have expected....even 2 yrs later.
T2
Quote: He hasn't said anything about the e-mail OR the incident...which of course is HIS NORM...so I guess I'll have to settle for what may have been my Hs silent acceptance of MY position on this, by his chucking the 'evil intent of the 'gift' into the garbage where both IT and SHE belong.
WOOHOO! And I don't think you realize what a big step that was; your H pitching that so-called gift!
Hey T2...glad to hear the smoke is clearing, and just in time for the Holidays!
Phew! But I mean really! The NERVE of that b!tch!
Frankly I'm surprised I haven't received a UPS package of the crap CJ left cross country with OW...but then she wouldn't give back the diamond, would she? )
I hope things have settled down a bit... After all you do not want to give that b*tch any power over you or your M, do you?
Do not let one incident bring you down after so many positives... you have come so far!
I still feel mindless rage when I think of my H's cousin (a shameless serial adulterer) having the gall to give R advice to the wh*re... so I do understand your feelings. I'd be furious too. I just don't like them ruling over you.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
I'm getting back up on my feet this morning...I'm still a little wobbly...but I'll get there. Thanks for all your support thru THIS most recent 'crisis' T2
Made me sad because, I've done that many times!
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