Originally Posted By: SIC
Anyways - detaching now.


SIC I have been following your sitch for a while and this seems to be where you are stuck IMO.

You are reacting emotionally to what your wife says and does.

You project it against what YOU want.

So

Originally Posted By: SIC
Told me again "You don't listen to me", which she is specifically referencing the fact she doesn't love me anymore.


This happens. I know this is hard. It is not what you want to hear but she is not going to listen to you because to her

THIS ^^^^^^^ is reality and what she wants.

The problem IS what she is telling you. You are NOT listening to her.

You keep telling her what you want. Watching her to see signs that you are going to get what YOU want.

When you don't see that or you see her running the other way then

You get frustrated

ANGRY

RESENTFUL

Then ....

You will get tired of all that and buy a one way ticket to Bitterville, population YOU.

Try agreeing with her. Validating her. Have no expectations.

Stop forcing your agenda.


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am