Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[ScaredinCanada]

I'm not over-reacting at all.

But last night when I got back from counselling she wanted to talk. Wanted to know what I told the IC, etc. So I told her a little bit (that I focused on identifying and addressing the issues that I have) and I told her that it went well and that IC said I was on the right track, that it was good that I was able to indentify and own them. I told her about DB and she said she knew of it and thought it was good advice.

Anyways, my W ask me "So your busy working on yourself - which is great and all but WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO START WORKING ON US?" lol

So I told her ideally I need to fix myself first, and that she had wanted space so there wasn't a lot I could do with the relationship at the moment. I told her that when she's ready to work through the issues and to not just be angry with me we could start.

I'd really like her to goto IC first, as I am still working on me and really don't want to fall into some of my old habits if decides now that she wants US to work.

Right now I'm focused, and I'm changing and I think it still annoys her. I really hope she books the IC. So then we can plan to goto MC.

My W found out late last night that her mother may have cancer...my W is really upset. I tried to comfort her, but basically told her that they need to hold off until more tests are run. I really hope everything is ok, as my MIL lives with us and she has a trip planned with my W next year. We really don't need the added stress and I really care for my MIL.

I also purchased DR book yesterday (they didn't have any in stock so I get it next week) and I'm looking forward to making time to read it.

Thanks again for the support, especially hard now as I seem to be coming down with the flu.