Is it a bad idea to lie to WAH?

[SDFoundGirl]

That's manipulation, and it will come back to bite you in the butt.

What I did was get really busy. My H and I were separated in house, so he had a clear view of my comings and goings. I'd get all gussied up, then go out. Sometimes it was just to a bookstore, other times it was to a Meetup group, others out with new friends. I tried to leave the house before he got home from work at least a couple of times a week so he could have the experience of coming home to an empty house where no one asked about his day.

I put my attention on really enjoying my life, and THAT got my H's attention. He knew he had no right to ask where I was or who I was with (though I would have told him if he'd had the courage to ask), but he'd beat around the bush, trying to get me to divulge things.

It put me in a good mood, which made H scratch his head. After all, HE looked miserable, and he thought I should be too. Made him realize he didn't know me half as well as he thought.

Don't play games, but DO get involved in things you enjoy. Don't sit around the house all mopey-like. That's totally unattractive.

SD