Hi Zen,

Well this is very strange. I thought I was the only one that

noticed this.

The night before bomb drop I had a dinner night out planned for

us so we could be without the kids for a mom and dad night.

(Valentines Weekend)

At the restaurant my W was all smiles and very nice. It was a

great night out. The whole time she knew she was going to bomb

drop me the following morning. Happy Valentines day for me.

That morning the bomb was " I filed, and ILYBNILWY "

I could give more examples but when you get down to it, it really

does not matter the day or time. The MLC existed long before the

bomb. It just became their secret that keeps giving and giving in

a selfish kind of way.

This will be a long haul and is not for the timid. You will stand

until your heart says this is too unfair. Only you will be able

to make that call. How long is long for you? That becomes the

question and right now I doubt you are ready to answer that

question. You can't call this a test if you decide to be absent

for it. I am not trying to 2x4 you. I am really not. What I

find interesting is almost everyone that posts here has some

part of their story that fits into mine. If this keeps up we

will have to gather notes and create "MLC for Dummies version 2"

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Anyone else find their MLCer to be super nice before they drop a big ‘ol pile of sh** in your lap? Am I getting too cynical?
(sigh…)


If this wasn't happening to you and others, I would feel cheated.

SO >>>> I understand how you feel and I would feel the same way.

It is all part of the MLC. It is going to be a long journey.

No shortcuts, they have to go it alone and we have to hope they

do ..... not for us, but for them.

I know that you know this all already. I relearn it every day

I wake up. The newbies that lurk here need to read it too.

Hang in there. If we do our own journeys for ourselves, it

will get better. It can ONLY get better. AND IT WILL.

WS