H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Hi BM - look in your message box
Antonia - hope you'll find us

Just came back from a meeting with H re: SA.....He took my L's draft to his lawyer so I though that he wanted to talk about the outcome, found out that he wanted to meet about the points HE objected to, lawyers analysis will come later...so what was the point of this if (I'm sure) more objections are coming from his H?

To make a long story short, H wants me out of the company...he is giving me the house I walk away from the company.....The other objections were that he didn't like that I wanted us to set salaries...H "was offended" (his words), he shouldn't have to answer to me for the money he takes out.....

So apparently he is not signing it the way it is....have to wait to what his L comes back with as well. BTW he chose a "will" lawyer to do this for him....

My overall impression was that this was a fight for autonomy on H's part...and control...he was fighting everything where I would have any control and say in his future life.

After the SA stuff was done...and yes it was emotional on my part and angry on his, we talked about D & Xmas.

Told him I'm going away for a before Xmas ski weekend with D...his eyes started to water...he said I don't know what I'm going to do about Xmas (he has OW coming for 2 weeks)...maybe he was hoping that I'll invite him over?

He again brought up how tired he is....I said "You have been extremely tired for a long time now"..."OK I'm depressed, is that what you want to hear?" he replies...wow...I asked if he is still on his medication...said yes...I inquired "what does the doctor think?" and H said "He just gives me a refill anytime I need it"

We also talked about his Dad how ill he is and I said that I'll go and see him before Xmas and bring him some Xmas cookies that he asked for (he loves my Xmas cookies)...H started to cry...and said "This is all too much"

We ended on a good note talking about D and how well she is doing in school...When we parted I hugged him and planted a kiss on his cheek...he held onto me very hard