Left, It would seem your H has somewhat of a self destructive personality. I don't know him, but he seems bent on not allowing himself to be happy. He's afraid you'll leave him, but he's almost forcing your hand to see if you will. He does not even try to keep the fact that he is seeing OW a secret, thus trying to push you away. Sounds like wifey #2 hurt him, but who knows that he didn't do the same thing to her emotioanlly? Anyway, it sounds like his baggage goes alot farther back than Wife #2. This is just IMHO, but who am I to judge? My H is not home either, but claims A is over. OW was a friend for a long time too, and I think that makes it even worse. They seem to think they can end the A and still stay friends. I let my H know that under NO circumstances could there be any contact with her if he wanted a life with me. He agreed it had to be that way, and that he had no problem giving her the boot, but that could be all talk, who knows? Sorry, but I'm still having a hard time getting past what your H did when your S was born. That had to be extemely painful and disappointing. How is he with our S now? How long have you been separated? You are a very strong lady and I really hope things will get better with your H. I think we all begin to wonder why we put up with what we do. Good question huh? Rachael
