It is very tiring to be the "bigger person" all of the time, taking the lead to take the high ground, isn't it? I could tell from your posts after the surgery that you were feeling physically and emotionally tired. I'm glad that you sound stronger now. Your body needed time to heal. Many of the pain medications prescribed for post-operative pain are central nervous system depressants and can feed depression.
I'm glad that H responded positively to your gesture. Interesting that he still does things to take care of your home (letting the front door mat drain). It sounds like an act of service. Is this one of his LL's?
Originally Posted By: Cas05
Got a message also from MIL asking why I haven't been in contact
I laughed out loud when I read this. ^^^^^^^^^^^ MIL is really passive aggressive, isn't she? Has she always been this way?
Originally Posted By: Cas05
I am going to respond to her in a positive manner although I will tell her I was disappointed that she chose to email me her complaint against me.
Cas, I know you've thought about this and want to set a boundary with MIL........but when I read this my gut said that setting this boundary right now might be counterproductive since MIL could cause problems between you and H. There will be plenty of time to set boundaries with MIL if/when you and H reconcile.....Just my 2 cents. You know the situation better than I do. As you indicated you may be able to get your point across without being antagonistic.
