btw, he is definetly MLC and has been at least 3 years into it. I THINK he isstarting to come out of the tunnel which is why I am reluctant to ask any questions, talk R, talk sex etc. I have read so much about MLC that I do have faith in this process but I get so annoyed at the dragging of time and then start to feel like "well, what about me"?
NTGR--you have said 'a lot' but it's really important that you've noticed the turning point. It seems folks who really think their partner is in MLC seem to notice these turning points but don't build on them. Some folks can, and some folks can't. But you don't know if you don't try.
Time can drag and like training to run a marathon--your mind can be your limiting factor. You recognize it, so you can push through it.
Your issue is similar to Findingmyvoice's. And your solution is found in Coach's advice: fight to stay positive.
