I think BOTH of our H's want/need nurturing. I think no woman could fill the voids that they feel --- not OW/GF or us. THEY are the only ones who can fill it for themselves.
I have always given H/XH positive reinforcement. I have written him many, many texts and e-mails like the one I shared. He deserved them.....but the positive reinforcement hasn't seemed to be enough.
BMF's Thanksgiving text said "Happy Thanksgiving GAG! BMF :-)". That was 2 weeks ago.
Thanks for your perspective on the messages from BMF. I suppose it is possible that XH might be holding BMF's feet to the fire since BMF was suspected of sending the anonymous package. I noticed last week that BMF is a "friend" on GF#2's FB page, so maybe BMF is just trying to keep himself in XH's circle of friends as you say.
Got a long e-mail from X-SIL this evening. At the end she wrote "...thanks again for all you do for (mom). I know Mr. GAG doesn't always acknowledge all your visits and kind deeds, but I know he appreciates them! I sure do! You are wonderful!!!"
