Okay hopefully I didnt post this twice. Andylee I was the same way I would wake up so angry and hurt only to call him right away and all we would do is fight -- I kept saying I love you - we have babies dont do this and he just shut down. I now dont bring any of that up... tomorrow dont call or text him - trust me - once you get through one day it will get easier for the next day. Whenever you feel like calling him - call a friend or family member or post here - I will look for you.
Try for 3 days of no contact - see what happens. Then when you do talk be upbeat- not depressing - like you and the babies are fine. This worked for me.
I just said the same thing to a friend I dont understand how a full time daddy can just walk away and not miss his family... who does that - someone lost. Remember that - he is lost and this is not about you (so everyone tells me)
I know I did everything for my MIL and she is happy this is happening she has her baby back. I feel the same way about he could do better but I always felt that from his friends and now I think that was my issue.
I get up an extra half hour now to shower and do makeup - even if he doesnt see I am doing it for myself -- I bought a book to read at night - baby steps.
My son said the other night when he came over Daddy you are back - you are back- I almost died inside.
Andylee I want to be each others support system - we can do this if we do it together
