Not much new to report. Not much contact from XH since we scheduled TT for next week.
Only contact from XH came sunday evening around 9pm when he e-mailed his sister and me from his phone: --subject: Made me cry "Bought Mom an electric erasable tablet. Told her to write whatever she wants". He attached photos of what his mother had written: "I love you every minute of the day! Be a good boy! Love always. Mom"
When I got it I replied "I'm SO glad you are able to say these things to each other!!! You ARE a great son to her! Hopefully this provides some healing to both of you."
I haven't heard from him since, but I really think that XH has been striving to internalize his mother's love all of these years. A wife can be nurturing and caring, but I don't think a wife or lover can replace the love of a mother that was withheld in childhood because of mental illness (alcoholism).........Made me think that that type of nurturing is what XH is really seeking. All I can do right now is reinforce that.
On another note..............received a text from BMF at 6:50am on Thanksgiving Day. Very strange. He and I never communicated directly..........EVER........I didn't respond. Anyone who's followed my thread here knows why I didn't respond.......Then this afternoon, I received a "friend request" to my real FB account (not my GAG account) from BMF. .......Weird. ........I'm not sure why BMF has suddenly been trying to make contact with me. It's very odd......but it DOES make me think that I am a topic of conversation between XH and BMF. Otherwise BMF would have no reason to attempt contact.
........I'm not sure why BMF has suddenly been trying to make contact with me. It's very odd......but it DOES make me think that I am a topic of conversation between XH and BMF. Otherwise BMF would have no reason to attempt contact. 
