Nope, not at all blaming her for his problems. His are his own, her's are her's... there isn't one person in this world without problems. You, me, or CW.
We only hear CW's view. Who knows what his triggers are?
My understanding is they have been married 20 mo., probably didn't get married the day they met. Regardless, doesn't really matter.
CW, you are here on these boards because you want help figuring out what to do. This is a serious problem and IMO, you need a professional. Plenty of things you can do in the meantime, you are not powerless. Either you want to invest in the relationship and see if it is possible to develop a healthy sexual R over TIME, and lots of it, or it is not worth it to you and you move on, the sooner the better.
IF you invest, you are going to need some realistic goals. For example, you will not have a normal sex life by 2011 with your H. By the end of 2011? Maybe, talk to a sex therapist, even if you need to go by yourself.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
