I agree too that it takes two, even if his problems preceded your relationship. It is often hard to identify our part and a good therapist can help with this. It seems that it often involves emotional withdrawal etc.

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H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

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