Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[Mila]

Antonia - ...... I've been going through a similar disillusionment stage recently. I've been thinking that I'm not facing reality, I'm still waiting for him to wake up....I have to stop doing that....

I think the thing I"m calling an MLC fog or colossal mistake is something he has FULLY embraced now as his chosen path and he is happy with it, no matter what it did to me, no matter that it broke our vows, no matter that his rel. with her began in a sickening, morally corrupt way

Yup, that describes it well...

You know, I don't see anything wrong with you pursuing another relationship if that's what you want....our marriages are just pieces of paper right now anyway....and who is to say that even if we find someone new that is going to last...and who is is to say that sometimes in the future when we both (H & I) live our lives separately (including dating other people) we will not find each other again....sometimes your realize what you had only after you loose it....but to come to that realization may take a long time.

Live your life for you Antonia....your H is living his