Oldtimer...in the beginning I think we were equally sexually aggressive and then his pursuit just stopped. I fear you are correct, that I need to move on and fast, I'm just having difficulty doing so.
Young at Heart....I think you are probably correct...I have unknowingly or maybe even knowingly contributed to his baggage. I'm 41 years old and at a point in my life where I feel like I need to express myself when something bothers me. I've tried not to put him down, but have expressed that he doesn't make me climax....primarily because he doesn't try. Sex with him is like sex with a teenager (I have never told him this).
To All....his issues most definitely predate our relationship. He had a porn addiction that began in his early teens and a 14 year relationship with a woman that has been very vocal (we live in a small town)about the fact that he had no interest in sex and never attended to her needs. He admits he would have sex with her only every view months and that he cheated on her often. His other ex, has told me herself he did nothing to please her and had a hard time maintaining an erection. He tells me that I should be happy that he doesn't have this problem with me and that he does have sex with me even though, and I quote "he can't" perform foreplay.
He had originally said he was willing to attend counseling, but when I finally found a sex therapist that would see us he started to back track and we had a huge fight about it last night.
Where I'm at today? I don't have any desire for him myself. I find it difficult to feel desire for someone that is so obviously repulsed by me. I feel so broken and lost....
