Oh my heavens Harrier, don't sign off now! And don't minimize the impact that C can have. I said and felt a lot of similar things about my H before I began C... C taught me how to figure out exactly what intimacy was to me, and how to ask for those things from my H. It taught me how to have more compassion for my H's feelings, and his side of our struggles. It taught me how to have hope even thought I too believed that not a lot of things could improve. And all these things are what DB is all about. It's not just for getting to the point you're at now. It's about learning WHAT works to build intimacy and connection, and HOW to do those things.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
