Just venting, still focusing on detaching - as I'm obviously struggling with it.
By all means keep venting.
You will continue to struggle with it until you reach a point where enough is enough. YOU will get tired of how your day is made or broken by her drama and when you reach that point, you will free yourself.
I think by now you realize there isn't a damn thing you can do to control her feelings, emotions, thoughts, or actions. There will be a point when you just give up on what she is thinking, because you realize it effects you too much and that YOU need to find your happiness.
When you actually reach that point, she will take notice and probably try other ways to get to you. It's when you just focus on you and YOUR well being that will make her question herself. As long as you allow her to make or break your day, you will not see any change in her behavior.
Easier said than done, but it will come and everyone here will help you get to that point.
