After months of limited contact with my WAW, I sent her flowers for thanksgiving. I made the card to her and the kids. Said I was thankful for all of them, they are all special. I then invited her over for dinner and signed the card "Love, Dad and Jeff." When she called to thank me, she sounded genuinely happy. She did come over for dinner.
I debated about sending the flowers. I decided to do so this time without expectation. In the past, I gave her things expecting a response and always got hurt. I did it this time because I wanted to, not to illicit a response (although if you really analyze it, I suppose I am-I just didn't live or die by the response). I felt good for doing it.
I will probably do something for Christmas, but the spirit hasn't moved me yet. If it doesn't, I won't. I'd like to initiate contact with her again, but I can't figure that out yet either.
