Am I Being Unfair ?

[misshim]

Since I don't have internet at home, I have to wait for a quiet day at work to post. I'm hoping for some answers to this from last night's drama.

My xh dropped off our D6 and he wouldn't talk to me but texted me. enjoy ! -- I thought he meant that our D6 had been a handful for him for the 2 hrs he had her. I texted why? - then my D6 pulled out some beef sticks out of her backpack to give to me, from him. I told him thanks you and that I appreciated it very much. (was always our favorite when we were married)

Then he asks me if he gave me cash, would I go xmas shopping for our D6 for him. But leave the present at my house for her to open. He knows I have a roomate and that they both hate each other, so I think he wanted her to open it up in front of the roomate. But I'm not sure.

Then out of the blue he texted and asked if I had any guilt for me keeping his air compressor (in our barn) and not giving it back. I texted him, that he seems to have forgotten that I had it ready for him to take this past summer, but he told me he couldn't get until the next day. He never asked for it that next day, so I didn't bring it up. But last night he slammed me with that? I told him I was sorry he was mad at me, (then I reminded him of the summer when he didn't want to take it) but I also told him he could take it whenever he wanted. And I texted, also that I have some guilt over things, but not about his air compressor.

He texted me saying he can't believe, I'm trying to keep it from him. He also texted that I'm not supposed to shop for him, he couldn't believe himself that he had even asked me to do it for him !!

I was shocked, because he was always a quiet guy. I was angry at first (to myself) but I took a deep breath. I texted, I'm sorry you are angry right now. The air compressor will be ready for you whenever you want it. And if you still need my help with xmas shopping for our D6, let me know. Take care of yourself.

Oh my !! he never replied back. How could he go from being nice, to attack !!! He is so forgetful about D6's issues of school. He even admits that I need to remind him of things because he can't remember alot. We've been divorced since aug. 09. I don't feel like being his mom anymore. Yet find myself still willing to help him out.

Does anyone have any ideas of how I should have handled the situation from last night? A good friend of mine, told me to tell him that hey, we are divorced now and that was his choice. I am not his mother, so tell him to leave me alone.

This whole thing is a nightmare!! I still love him, and I want to help him. Seems like everytime I do, it comes back to bite me. Now that we are divorced, I'm not sure how to handle him.

Any ideas?? I wanted to validate his feelings when he was angry about the a/compressor, but deep down it really ticked me off. He had to have forgotten about the summer convo already???