I have the exact same issue. My W specifically said yesterday "I do not want gifts from you". At same time I know that one of the biggest issues in our R has been lack of thoughtfullness. So I already purchased a few small gifts for my W, that are well thoughout and not simply "purchases". Now I've considered just putting "from Santa" on them or having each gift be from the children. I'm really worried that this is a test, and even though she's said not to get her gifts. She will be angry/disappointed if I simply comply.
At the same time, it leads me to believe that she isn't getting me a gift (which is fine with me) but I certainly don't want her to feel guilty if I get her something.
I hate this whole sitch so much.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
