However, I think the biggest thing you can do to help her right now, is to take a step back, and deal with your own anxiety around allowing her to solve her own problems.
When your W gets 'stuck in her feelings'... what is it that YOU are feeling? Can you share that with us?
I am gatting better at letting go and letting her fix her own problems--smoking cessation, job-hunting. I do want to influence what I can--reminders to practice dancing, attend exercise classes, getting her up after naps for evening recreation or morning lessons, going to restaurants.
My feelings are probably different for each episode. They include frustration, annoyance, disappointment, embarrassment, anger, fear.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
