There's someone who did the same thing and was able to get their marriage together. It was nursehusband I think was the poster's name. Do a search for it and see if his story comes up.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER