First off, all my sympathies because you've been on the receiving end of an incredibly cold and heartless person. Every story here is sad, especially at first, but some of them you just shake your head. I'm sorry for you, and sorry for what the kids have had to deal with.
That being said, I have some harsh messages for you. I don't bring them to break you or make your road tougher. Quite the contrary. I bring them to convince you that life continues and that there is still much good in front of you.
You must, simply must, find a way to feel your pain, grieve your loss, and then put it to the side. I read your original thread and could feel the pain in you. Now I see the same pain in this new thread.
Your wife is gone. The woman she was, the wife she was, the mother she was. All gone. Why? I don't know. I also know that at this point it really doesn't matter. Think of it like a terribly fatal disease that you got even though you did nothing to deserve it. You grieve, you fight, and eventually you must ACCEPT.
Yes, the loss of time with your children is agonizing. Complete agreement. Unfortunately, your wife had the power to make that happen and she chose to do that. Now you must find the answer to this pain. Protect yourself legally, get as much as you can, protect as much as you can. Don't all your once feelings for her to affect the legal decisions you make. The make the most of your time with your children. Forget their mother when they are with you. They don't deserve to be in the middle of this, so keep them out of it.
My message is buck up my friend. The time for "woe is me" is slipping away quickly. Time for you to stand up as a man and make your life happen.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
