Put your focus, squarely, one hundred percent, on working to become a man of integrity and consistency. Use the time you have apart from her to devote your energies to worrying about you and how you can make both you and the life you live the best it can be.
This is not some smarmy feel good commercial we are talking about. Your wife has legitimate issues with you. Honest and lasting changes in your character and behavior are going to speak to her much more loudly than doing anything to make her notice you.
She doesn't want you to change. She wants you to continue reinforcing all the reasons in her head that she has to end your relationship. Every single time you press her, ask her leading questions, tell her how you feel, try to get her attention, do something that doesn't seem genuine, you are simply being the man she knows you to be.
What would be a true, radical change?
Leaving her alone.
Acknowledging that you don't deserve her,that she is right to expect peace and happiness in her life, that she is allowed to pursue those things how she chooses. Ultimately, showing her though your LACK of words to her that you respect her desire to make her own decisions.
Stop talking.
Start showing.
And do it whether she is looking or not.
Count the relationship as lost and answer the question, "What will you do now?"
That will put you onthe right track.
Blessings,
Bill
Exactly. With an emphasis on:
Put your focus, squarely, one hundred percent, on working to become a man of integrity and consistency. Use the time you have apart from her to devote your energies to worrying about you and how you can make both you and the life you live the best it can be.
