I'm going to hijack your thread here and respond to some of Rachael's points.
Quote: All day my H was distant and I was pretty tweaked out about it thinking he's pulling away from me and at any given time he was going to tell me he just couldn't do this anymore. It's thoughts like this that turn me into a big ball of anxiety, and I get all nervous and scared inside. It's kinda like the feeling that you get when the bomb is dropped. We're waiting for it to happen again. Why do we do this T2?
IT is SOOO easy to fall into this trap, especially earlier on, closer to the bombs...but that thought does still come occasionally (CJ layed on the couch looking rather "down" to me...and I did think...what is he thinking about...is he unhappy here?....before I STOPPED that train of thought!)
And that's kind of the key. To RECOGNIZE when you're doing this to yourself and stop it. CHOOSE to believe a more rational/kind explanation.
You said he had a headache...viola! I am NOT myself nor chatty and personable when my head is pounding.
Last time CJ was feeling under the weather, acting odd and I was uncertain about it all I just ASKED...Is it just that you're sick or is there something else? Nope, just sick.
Anxiety has been my daily partner for several years, ladies, (and I mean clinical Generalized Anxiety Disorder) and it was SUCH a relief when the combination of exercise, meditation, practising thought stopping, medication and much personal growth...it is better than it's been in YEARS.
