Just know that you cannot make her "see the light," so to speak. The common theme that runs through most threads on this board is a stunned spouse who believes in the viability of the relationship facing a spouse who believes just the opposite, complete with several reasons why they are right.
It is possible that you will lose this relationship physically before you get it back.
On the other hand, perhaps your assertiveness will be appealing to her, though it sounds to me like there are some cultural differences rearing their head as well.
She wants to fly. Well...can you fly too? I mean, you don't have to become a high flyer in other people's eyes in order to fly with your wife at the level she would like to travel. Is there something about your personality, beliefs, etc that keep you from being able to run in the circles she currently favors?
It sounds like you've moved in different directions, and your response was to retreat a bit within yourself. So while your wife is succeeding professionally and beginning to move in new circles, you are retreating to home and privatising your life. Those are diametrically opposed lifestyles, eh?
Being the "big fish in the little pond" in WV, I'm supposing you were quite the opposite. Can you see how you have become a different person to the man who first attracted her attention?
There is always work to be done on ourselves. The question you have to answer is whether or not you actually WANT to life the kind of life your wife now desires. The question is whether or not the reality is that your lives HAVE branched in different directions.
You're the man with those answers.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
