Can I Get My Wife Back

[MrBond]

"Yes i have taken responsibility for what ive done but i cant change what happened only insure it will never happen again."

Two months is a pretty short time when you look at everything overall. And as I mentioned, each time you are questioning her and showing your controlling behavior, you are back at square one. I'm sure after the first one you assured her that it wouldn't happen again. But it did. Right now she has absolutely NO assurances that the same isn't going to happen again. You've proven that.

"she says i have never done anything to u and have been faithful for 13 years,"

And she was right.

Right now the only footing I see you having is to keep your changes consistent. When you interact with her, do not show anything that is controlling. Start by asking for her opinion of things no matter how small. Show that you are actually listening to her and that what she says actually matters to you.

I don't mean going overboard and do whatever she says, but if you strike the right balance, maybe, just maybe she'll get to that tipping point where she'll start thinking that maybe you really have changed.

"but i was still controlling and analyzed everything she did but i could do whatever i wanted."

Give her that same freedom.