I know you are in so much f'ing pain right now BUT, there are really positive signs here. She is freaking out. Going to mind-read your wife here for a minute... "Why doesn't OM want me anymore, what is wrong with me, if this counseling doesn't go well with my H, I have nothing left, I need to be needed by someone"
SCARED. She needs her crutch. She is willing to go to counseling. The EA is winding down, pressure, demands, reverse psychology (you should be with him, blah, f'ing blah!).
Get out of the house if you need to but don't make any decisions about your future unless you truly must.
Do NOT take it personally. I repeat, do NOT. It is about her and her crazy feelings. I agree, now is the time to shine, detach and act 'as if'...
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
