Can I Get My Wife Back

[MrBond]

The list of changes relates to your A's. When you were having them, you were in control. Your W was second to your OW. You controlled the situation. But when your W is out getting a life and moving on now, you don't like that it's out of your control.

"i have to much to change and she would be crazy to take me back and later said she isnt taking me back"

And she would be right. How long have you actively been implementing your changes? Every time you blow up or accuse her of something, that sets the progress back to zero. What changes have you made and how consistent have you been with them?

Have you taken real responsibility for what had happened before? Resentments can grow and fester if they aren't addressed right when they happen.

After your second A, how was your attitude and behavior? Be honest.