Well yesterday afternoon the OM dropped W off at my daughter's indoor soccer game after they spent the weekend together. We were friendly to each other which has been a goal of mine that I think I reached by just trying to be her friend. I think the huge problem is that she sees me as a weak man/doormat so I took her aside when we got home and told her in a low firm voice that what she has done to me is horrible and regardless of me being a weak man or not, she made the conscious decision to take advantage of that and hurt me and treat me poorly and that is not going to happen anymore regardless of who it is.
After that she made dinner for the family and I helped (another of her pet peeves). The rest of the evening was enjoyable, with me treating her like a bratty little sister and us busting on each other. The kids and I decorated the Christmas tree and she baked brownies and cookies. We joked with each other about how I ate all the stuff she prepared for Thankgiving (I was a picky eater, it bothered her and I am making an effort to enjoy more of her food which is really good). She occassionally would drop comments like how her mother said W should have divorced me sooner (due to me eating more of the food she makes) or she will have to make me food next year on the Holidays we aren't together. I think this means she is noticing the changes I am making? We even had a tickle fight while we made dinner. I don't know if all this is pursuing. I don't call, text, say I love you, started GAL etc. But it does seem to be working somewhat. She has lost respect for me and I am working on rebuilding my self esteem for me/kids and if it is something she likes than so be it.
