sandi2 now i don't think i deserve to have my family and wife taken from me cause of my affair; however i do believe my wife deserves to be happy with or without me. hardest thing to accept is that i caused most of these problems and have finally realized what she and my children mean to me. Just hope its not to late i have backed way off her and the interaction we do have i make sure are pleasant with no arguing. Just hope its not to late hard to keep hope right now but im trying.