MLC or not?

[jon2911]

I think it's important to understand the difference between legal stuff, which really doesn't matter, and the relationship.

I was in a similar situation August of 2007, and my C showed me a couple Bible verses and said this:

"Right now she thinks you're the problem, and that divorcing you will solve it. There's nothing you can do to change her mind. Give her what she wants".

I'm talking about the Waiver of Service here. I was dragging my feet and trying to make it as hard as I could, making her have the sheriff serve me papers, etc.

It doesn't mean giving in to all demands, but really don't get worked up about contested vs. not, the reason, etc. This is paperwork, nothing more. It has nothing to do with reconciliation or relationship.

I know for me, when I followed my counselor's advice (one of the hardest things I've ever done), things started to change. She could stop being mad at me for dragging my feet, and realize I wasn't the cause of all her unhappiness. She got right up to the last step, I signed everything, and she never finalized.