Piecing

[FindingMyVoice]

Hi dbmod, thanks for the post; always informative. I just have a comment and question. I've listened to a number of MWDs works (keep love alive; how to get through to your man; fire your shrink) and have read DB. I'm sometimes a little discouraged by the lack of resources there is for those of us who were the ones to almost walk away (and still trying not to sometimes).

The worst of it (thanks to going to an IC and reading lots of great resources like MWDs) is over. But I find that when I'm dealing with serious other stressors like I am right now, even little disagreements can still trigger those 'run like h&ll' feelings. They're very disconcerting in and of themselves, but combined with other stress, has really got me worried at times.

When times like this hit, how do I:
- calm myself down in the moment and squelch that urge to pack up my bags and take off
- reassure myself that staying put is the best option
- look at all the possible motivations that could have caused the argument/disagreement rather than just resorting to blaming or self-blame
- put the issue into perspective so that I can continue to work at the M in good faith?

Thanks very much for your help. FMV.