You SOUND Fabulous! I have been catching up on your sitch. You are Grace and AMAZEMENT all in one package. I am in awe of your interaction with your spouse. You are definitely an inspiration. YOu are handling everything very well. Keep it up lady.
HUGS to You...
DU
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Isn't that a biotch? All dressed up and no place to go. I just bought the perfect little black dress. I'm wearing it to the office Christmas party, but then? Wal-Mart? Grand opening of a Car Wash? My hometown ( est. pop. 6000) is not exactly a fount of classiness.
You sound much better in the controlled adult conversation department with your H than I am. WHEN we have contact, he asks a question, and if I began to answer it, he says I DON'T WANT TO FIGHT. He still brings out the worst in me at those moments, so I'm avoiding it entirely. Much better.
Exciting news, though. I found matching 4 inch sling backs for $7.49!! Bargain even if I only wear it once!
Well on Friday night I didn't go out and ended up ironing and mending some clothes, shortening pants and such....very exciting Friday night LOL.
Saturday was a beautiful day here, enjoyed time outside in the sunshine then went to a nice cafe had a latte and a muffin and have read the whole newspaper...very relaxing. Then did some work in the garden and in the evening went out for dinner with a male friend...nothing romantic BTW...don't like him that way....but was thinking what if I did like him "that way" would I be ready to pursue it?
My GF and her D that were living with me have moved out this weekend...so today is the first day that I have my privacy back....feels good....stayed home all day and enjoyed it
Total silence from H, so nothing to report on that front.
GAG - Hope you are not snowed in anymore.
Glam - I have been thinking more like a single woman...I'm noticing the looks and it feels good....as before I didn't even care or noticed other guys looking at me...only had eyes for my H.
DU - Thank you for your nice words, you are sweet . I see that there are some exciting developments with you and your H, I'm so so happy for you and wish you all the best. Keep us posted...I don't know about others, but it always gives me strength to continue standing when I see that happy endings are possible.
Punkin - LOL, you make me laugh you spunky lady GAL in a small town must be a challenge...But you work that little black dress and 4" sing backs at that office Xmas party, will ya
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Mila, you sound like you are doing so good. Wished you lived closer, we could go out on those Friday nights. I need more single friends This friday i have no plans but I do plan on being all dressed up with SOME place to go when my H gets the kids.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Hi Kissak....I wish you lived closer too . I'm doing OK...still have my down days....days when I really miss H and the family life we used to have....this weekend was kind of sentimental for me, even had a good cry....I can't believe it...we have been separated for over a year and I still cry over him...how long am I going to do that....maybe it's the Holiday Season approaching that makes me more nostalgic. This will be first Xmas without H. Mind you last Xmas he was home (1st False R) but it wasn't very merry anyway...actually it was very tense and stressful...you know walking on egg shells and trying to make him happy while he kind of pretends that he wants to be there while carrying on with OW....yuck
OW is in town for the weekend...even got a report form someone that they were seen together at a coffee shop...why do people have the need to tell me that????
Just booked a ski weekend away with my D....we need to get out of town over the Holidays...it will be good for us.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
OW is in town for the weekend...even got a report form someone that they were seen together at a coffee shop...why do people have the need to tell me that????
I wish I knew the answer to that. I hear it alot too. What I hate is when people come out of the woodwork to tell me something he did when we were together. Hello? If you wanna tell me that you heard my H was running around on me, why didnt you tell me way back when it was happening? Not years later! If you couldnt tell me then, dont tell me now.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I am new-ish to your thread, but I suspect you are near to where I live.
Anyway, you are doing great. I wish I was at this point again. The ski trip sounds awesome. It is weird that people want to report now ... I guess they feel "released" from the "secret" because you now know and are separated. They want you to know that you are making the right decision. Of course, you could've made that choice years back when they knew what was happening. Ugh!
Enjoy the trip with your D.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
... knew and told, I wanted to say, but couldn't edit. Is that function gone now?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Kissak - I think BM offered good analysis of why people do that, makes sense...
BM - Thanks for visiting my tread It could very well be that we are very close to each other...send me a message on DB/FB, you'll find me easily....I think I'm the only Mila among the DB friends.
Looks like my H and OW are still going on strong. She was in town this weekend and they came together to shop at the store where D works and brought their purchases to her cashier. How insensitive on their part. Here is his teen daughter working and he comes in with this woman and makes her to serve them and see what they are buying....she must have felt rejected by him...he is playing house with this woman and he is making it so obvious that D is not part of his life anymore...this woman is his priority. Why not go shop somewhere else? D told me "Dad and his "lady friend" came to shop at my store they bought so much stuff". Couple of weeks ago the woman came there by herself and started conversation with D, this time they came together....I wonder if it's some kind of a plan to get D used to her.
Still getting cold business requests from H....he wouldn't communicate this rudely with anyone in our business...and until recently not even with me....don't understand why he is this rude all of a sudden.
I also got an email from H asking to make a cheque to a Lawyer, looks like he got some advice on the SA...he is also asking to meet with me about it to "talk about some points". And I got a bill from my lawyer for $2500 for her work on the Agreement.....not a good day today.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
. I'm doing OK...still have my down days....days when I really miss H and the family life we used to have....this weekend was kind of sentimental for me, even had a good cry....I can't believe it...we have been separated for over a year and I still cry over him...how long am I going to do that....maybe it's the Holiday Season approaching that makes me more nostalgic. This will be first Xmas without H. Mind you last Xmas he was home (1st False R) but it wasn't very merry anyway...actually it was very tense and stressful...you know walking on egg shells and trying to make him happy while he kind of pretends that he wants to be there while carrying on with OW....yuck