It was a long weekend. She had the 2 little ones and i had the 2 oldest. we had a lot of fun. She took the kids to someold friends place as she is not allowing OM to have any involvement with my children.
The funny part, is this friend of hers has asked me to have them out for a visit. I know this friend and have for 20 years, she is just an on again off again kind of friend. So not sure as to why this sudden interest in reconnecting with me. maybe to get some info for the wife. Im not sure.
I have stood firm with my wife that as long as OM is in the picture she cannot be apartof my life other than concerning the kids.
She made it quite clear on Thursday night that she misses the family and the kids, but she doesnt miss me. She is going to get her own place and she is still going to see OM. So i said fine now leave my house. She wont break the boundary of bring OM around the children as it could cost her the kids on a more permanent basis. Her illegal activities have been documented and my lawyer has the evidence.
It is tough with Christmas coming, now that I have had to assume the car and the car payment it is really tight in my home. I know have every bill that we together shared without her income. Very tough, but the kids seem to understand Christmas wont be the same as usual this year.
So I have made the boundary that as long as the OM is in the picture, she cant be a part of my home life. Which means she wont see her son on his birthday, she wont see the kids on christmas, and she will only get the 2 youngest on Boxing Day as the oldest have a week with their father. So i am struggling with this one. My kids wont see mom on christmas, her entire family will be at my house but she wont be.
Is there a point where you can stretch a boundary for special occasions, or do I stand firm that as long as OM is in the picture, she is not sharing i my life?
Her life took another turn for the worse, she has no car and most recently while driving her moms car, she was pulled over and has a suspended license. So she cant drive. She is totally dependant on friends driving her to and from her visits with the kids. So i expect the kids to see less and less of her shortly.
Well thanks again for all the support. let me know if i can be flexible on the boundary issues. I welcome everyones input.
