I was the same way bud. When they said to me GAL, I said "I can't I've done it for the past 18 years and this was one of the reason that put my in this position to begin with".
Here is what I can tell you Habit....
YOu need to do things for YOU and things that make you happy. Period. No questions asked. None. Just do for YOU.
Yes you are trying to save your M and I pray and hope that you do. What many do not realize is the BEST chance you have to save your M is to become a happy, confident, full of life person that everyone whats to be around. I am not saying be the life of the party. No. I am saying be a happy person. Someone that can be happy alone, with someone, married, divorced, seaprated, with kids, no kids, with a job, with no job, etc. Just plain happy.
The way you do this...is to do things that really make you happy. FTR, I am not suggesting that you become a totally irresponsible individual who will do things just to make himself "feel happy" no just try and find your own happiness.
As for your W, she is going to do what she needs to do for HER. YOu just do things that work for YOU. Wanna save your M...well then buddy time to start really working on YOU.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
