All her actions and words point toward one theme: her choices are justified because I am a bad guy. I know her; we've been together almost twenty years. she is not a serial trollop. She cannot destroy a home, scar her children for life, trash her solemn vows and embrace infidelity without justifying her choices.
I have got to somehow lift the blame from my side of the issue. I cannot do that by being the dispassionate father figure. Even if I am totally calm and resolved, in her eyes I am still a mean person for forcing her hand to quickly get legal protection and D with specific "bounderies".
I told her I was in no hurry to get a D. I have to first win her trust. She admitted to having an appointment with a lawyer scheduled this week, which I asked her to postpone. She suggested to save money we should both use one lawyer, to which I responded we should both choose the lawyer then, not just her. She seemed Friday night to be amenable to postponement, but we'll see if she heeds my request. If she doesn't, I'll go from there. If she does, maybe she'll trust me a tiny little bit.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
