Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

H text me last night about what his child support will be. He said he needs to plan ahead. This came after I asked when I would be getting the child support for this month from him. He talks like he has no money. I still don't understand how that can be. I know how much he takes home $966 every two weeks, which is $1932 a month. All the bills he has are $500 to me (for right now) and $200 to his college loan. He lives at home and has had to pay nothing for rent, a car loan, food (unless he goes out), etc for 9 months and before that he just paid for food and utilities for the 11 months before that. He should be able to save upwards of $1000 a month. I am not upset, just floored, and eye openning because as I said before H would always blame me for us never being able to save. I guess it wasn't me because I have saved quite a bit (meaning $100 or 200 a month when able) and I have $2500 in bills each month. I went from nothing in savings to a little something. It takes a while for it to grow, but I have something and really don't worry much, except when I have the extra bills like my L and registration. I just don't get it at all. Unless he has money and just doesn't want to touch it.

I finally just told him what the monetary settlement was. I told him the child support payment and that he owes me nothing and told him in a mean way. He said sorry for starting a fight, but this is a sore subject for me right now because I really felt this would be the only way H would get some punishment for treating me like poop for the past 2 years, but he still isn't getting anything. I am really struggling with that because I want him to understand what he did was wrong, but I really have to let that go and it is hard.

I have just really had it with H because he keeps trying to "help", and I don't want him help. He acts like a poor hurt puppy dog and he is the one who did the damage. I told him the car is getting fixed and again he said that I can have his car to drive. I told him that I don't need it but thank you for the offer, and he kept insisting. Everytime he talks to me about S, or picks-up S or drops him off, he asks what he can do or if I need anything. NO I need you to leave me alone. You don't get to be my friend anymore or get to help me or do things for me. We are over!

Sorry for all the venting, but he just urks me. He just doesn't get it.