Oddly, the times i'm feeling strong/empowered are moments where I'm realizing I dont NEED my wife to be happy. That I can be happy outside of our M. Not sure if this is a good thing or not. I like the feeling though.
Don't you think that feeling would come about when you begin to return to the man you use to be before M? It is a good sign. It means that you are not co-depenant on her to have a life and be happy.
I bet she will start seeing other traits in you that were there when she fell in love with you. That is you goal, right? She will respond more positive when that guy shows up!
Good job at showing interest in her feelings and yet not pressuring her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
