It's way too late and I should be in bed, but you make good points. You remind me of my wife in some ways, too, and I don't know whether that will make you feel better, worse or indifferent. I think we made it (I'll let you know in 20 years) but it was a near enough thing.
If you get the chance, do post the page numbers from Schnarch that you want people to look at. I'd be interested and there may be lurkers around who would like to see them, too.
