Unfortunately, I didn't find the book until we separated. I have no doubt it would have made a difference for me as the LD partner (then again, we seemed to swap this title at times). He doesn't subscribe to the theory that you should 'just do it, and the feeling will come'. Hearing this as a LDS makes you feel like you are totally to blame, something is wrong with you and trust me, is a HUGE turn-off. Getting to the root of the problem and facing yourself is his approach.

Listening to your above situation and living through the last 4 months of my life, makes me want to tell you to run, not walk, to pick up this book (and probably a sex therapist appt!)

Good luck CW. You being here on this site is far more than my H ever did... be proud of yourself.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."