H in crisis and self medicating with OW

[awest1217]

I agree with the above. You need to start thinking in terms on you and not us. You need to think about the offer and decide if you want it for you. Would it be better for you if you sold the house and got a smaller one? Is it really a good offer? If you could get out of this one, but get a better one with a mortgage that was less that you could afford on your own if H leave, would that be better?

I am glad that H is going to the doctor, but you still have a long way with him and it is true that you need to think about not just you but both of you financially. If you do reconcile, maybe it would be good to have a new place to build your new relationship in?

Just things to think about not things to do. Really think before you turn anything down because you may not get another offer for a while and if this is a good one you may not get that for years.