I think that another major point you are making is that you are reminding yourself that your R with H is now a "new R" ---- not the "old M" ---- and so you need to remind yourself to adjust your expectations and to behave accordingly --- maybe like you did when you and H were courting.
Yes, absolutely! And I've reminded H that our old relationship is dead....over with.
Thanks GAG. I really appreciate your wisdom! It certainly helps my perspective.
