If I understood you correctly, I think that you are saying that H will be drawn to you if you reflect a positive image of him back to him.
Yes, that's what I'm saying, especially if Sanderika is correct and H is feeling insecure about himself, (and I'm sure she's right). He then doesn't need me to be telling him he's got things wrong. If I ignore the negative and focus on the positive I should do better. As soon as I pointed out the negative H cast a negative over everything else.......Cas, you're always criticising. Cas, we never get along. It's always fights. It will never change. It's always been the same. (and this is just so not true but perhaps it is his perception, especially if he is already feeling down)
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
This is similar to the concept that Jody told me about that explains why the "big man on campus" (handsome, smart, and successful) often ends up with a woman who may appear plain to others ---- she makes him feel special ---- she makes him feel better than anyone else can.
It also explains why the ow is invariably a 'model down' which is definitely true in our case. I believe that ow affirms H and she also drops everything when he wants to do something.
