Alright enough about bounderies. I'm quite happy in my own skin, and I don't need to hear anymore advice that is not solution oriented. I have my self respect and I never made any assurances about exposure. She's still scared to death of that and doesn't "trust" me to "behave" while she's away. But that only puts me on a tightrope toward my ultimate goals. And the goals are paramount.
I'm trying to win back this crazy person, get her to come to her senses, get her to look at me with fresh attraction, get her to remember the good things about our 18 years, get to see the value of the marriage, get her to no longer feel "trapped" in it, get her to see OM for the predator he is (married 10 yrs w/S6). Maybe she needs to actually "see" him in person as opposed to a perpetual long distance intreague, which is nothing but letters and promises, but filled with tittalating intreague.
Whatever happens, God can and does bring good from even the most heinoous of evils. I think the other night I made an impression diffusing the pissed off bad guy. Please, if the advice I get here hinders the goal, I'm afraid I'll have to ignore it.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
