H came over for the tree trimming and everything went well. I didn't persue, just decorated. He got here a little early and had lunch ready. That was nice. D3 was crazy-silly, but I think she was just tired and excited that daddy was over. Put up the tree, played 2 rounds of memory. Did a bit of online holiday shopping. Made plans for all of us to have dinner & finish the shopping Tuesday. Told him I would let him know what other holiday plans we make and he could join us if he wanted.
All said and done, everything seemed good to me. If this is how things go on, I am ok. D got her daddy. We were relaxed and comfortable (well, I was at least). It may not be what I would have chosen for any of us, but its ok. I think we are all prety lucky that things are this civil. Hopefully we can keep it up for our for our girl too.
Not really sure if it counts as a bounary, but I did ask H to please put away the camping stuff he left in the garage. He said he would, he had just forgotten about it. No big talk came out of it, but I still feel good about asking him to take care of that himself.
Regardless of OW's involvment in that trip, I felt it was thoughtless of him to leave a big pile of stuff laying in the garage. He has a tendancy to just drop things off at the house. Not sure if he expects me to clean up after him or if he thinks elves come and do it.
I'm not his mom and this isn't his house any more either. I won't be cleaning up after him, especially considering it may be his way of telling me about OW. I’m done with these passive-aggressive guessing games. If he is ready to tell me, so be it. He can use his words like a big boy though.
