Thanks for sharing your journey here. If I understood you correctly, I think that you are saying that H will be drawn to you if you reflect a positive image of him back to him. This is similar to the concept that Jody told me about that explains why the "big man on campus" (handsome, smart, and successful) often ends up with a woman who may appear plain to others ---- she makes him feel special ---- she makes him feel better than anyone else can.
Sanderika, thank you for sharing your perspective here. You are very strong and compassionate.
