It stung her a bit when I said it last night and she reacted a bit put off...24 hours later, I got the green light to find the right one and then she thanked me for being patient with her through this.
Morning GW, just wanted to drop by and send you my support; it must feel like you're constantly on an uphill battle, and I admire your tenacity in striving to keep your M together. I just wanted to let you know too, how significant it is that she wants to go to counseling with you.
Just a thought too, that her negative reaction to your comment below might not be a confirmation that she was indeed planning to use it as a way to just make her feel good about running away. Do you think there might be any other reasons? Could she be scared about going?
For example, as much as I'd wanted my H to come to C with me, I was afraid to bring him at the same time because I was scared my H would paint me as 'the bad one' in the M and that my side of the story would never be understood. That it would simply become a venue for my H 'beating up on me' and that he'd be able to turn my IC against me to the point that they'd 'gang up on me'; that he'd be able to convince my IC of how 'bad' I was. It was really scary.
Like I said, just a thought. You know your W best, but just wanted to encourage you to consider other possible motivations for her reaction to your comment. Hugs and good thoughts to you GW. FMV.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
